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The Guide To Lesbian Spotting
As mentioned before, lesbian spotting is an important survival skill to acquire because it helps us to identify our potential partners.
How does one spot a lesbian?
Judging by appearances
One of the easiest ways is to guess by appearances.
There are lesbians who sport some of the following:
If there are any more items to add to the list, suggest them in the comment box and I’ll add them in.
Although this is an easy way to try to spot a lesbian, it is very, very, far from foolproof.
The look doesn’t define the lesbian. The lesbian defines her look.
Not all lesbians dress the same way.
You will miss out on the lesbians who don’t have any of the above list.
And, don’t be surprised if you see a straight woman sporting a combination of items from the above list.
Asking targeted questions
If you get to talk to your lesbian suspect, during your conversation, ask her targeted questions about places/movies/tv shows/websites that have a lesbian following.
Ask her if she has been to any lesbian bars. Instead of asking ‘lesbian bar’, quote the name of the bar and see if her eyes light up and she gives you a knowing look.
E.g. Have you been to Shela in Bangkok / Girl Bar in Los Angeles / Candy Bar in London? (Or any other lasting lesbian bars that is in your area)
If you know of any other notable lesbian bars to add to the list, do suggest.
Movies, television shows and websites are good topics for opinion openers. Even if she turns out to be straight, you can still carry on a decent conversation and make a friend. If she happens to have a profile in any lesbian personals site, that is quite a giveaway.
Again, this isn’t exactly a foolproof way, because you might miss out on lesbians who aren’t in touch with lesbian culture.
Giving and Reading the Lesbian Eye Contact
The gaydar is most useful when we want to identify whether the girls we are attracted to, are lesbians as well.
This is especially when you can’t tell by mere appearances, like in the case of lipstick lesbians.
To do this you must be good at giving and reading the lesbian eye contact.
Each time you see a girl you fancy, feel at ease to toss her your admiring look. If she returns your eye contact and you feel an intensity building up in your two-way gaze that seem to last for moments, she is possibly attracted to you as well.
This only works around lesbians who are attracted to you.
For the girls who are not attracted to you, even if they are lesbians, they will not return your gaze.
At most they will just give you a knowing look.
If not, you can only spot the lesbian in them by observing how they behave around others.
Avoid misreading. There are straight women who can really stare at other women for seconds: looking at your shoes, clothes, bags, makeup, but they are just not into you.
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Gal, your site rocks!
lols…nice site…but i seriously think dat its really hard to spot our more feminine counterparts..lols…or maybe just everyone ard me is too str8..haha!
Hey thanks! Its possible, try giving the special eye contact to someone you like and see how she reacts to you. Somehow from her reaction you can just tell if she is or she isn’t.
Ah the Lesbian Eye contact - always a dead give away. A friend of mine says, ‘But how do you know?’
‘It’s the Lesbian eye contact’ we know.
Well, not all lesbians appear in that way.
Me and my girlfriend are just like any girl. We wear dresses, high heels and we both have long hair and we both don’t have tattoos.
thanks alexis for reaffirming, that is the point i have been trying to make: that not all lesbians appear in the same way.
well, what if you’re bi? how should i indicate that i’m single and open to a same-sex relationship (without having to tell the world)? i recently went to a lgbt pride festival alone (i just moved to another state) but people treated me like a straight girl.
i look pretty feminine and usually dress in a t-shirt and jeans but no make-up. also, a lot of times i do get lesbian eye contact but very very secretive and furtive ones…the kind where they look when they think you won’t notice. i also get looks from guys but i have a hard time convincing them to approach too. 
not to toot my horn, but i know i’m pretty attractive…is it really that intimidating? do i really have to be obvious to give people the green light?
Iwontbiteipromise…. I would have to say with my experiences it was not really hard to figure out what women want(if they were willing.) See the thing about most women they just want to be wanted… I have turned many of women out. (Panty testing)So far I have past every test. you just have to be confident in yourself. get what you want. be you and know who you are. that is what most or any woman wants…. hang it there you will be just fine…..